Cumberwedding; Is this the real life or is it a fantasy?

It's like a fairytale really, the whole Cumbertale wedding. You have a prince charming who meets a lovely woman, they fall in love and they marry. Only she got pregnant first, it's the 21th Century after all. Only what some fangirls seem to forget is that what they so love in every other Disney film, they despise when it comes to the man of their dreams. Literally their dreams because if they would think it would ever happen, meeting him, him falling in love with them etc. they had another thing coming.

Yesterday, Valentine's Day, Benedict Cumberbatch married the love of his life, Sophie Hunter. Every fangirl/fanwoman/fanperson was over the moon. That is, every sane person. Every other spiteful, hateful 'fan' girl was screaming their lungs out and was pulling her hair out. Not to mention tweeting/blogging about it.
Even the media is putting every fan down once again by saying we are 'all' in mourning and by posting every hateful tweet they could find. That there are most likely more happy tweets and blogs about the marriage no paper will ever says, or that most fans ask to respect their privacy by not posting the pap pics.

Why is it that certain fangirls react in that way, I thought in the very early hours of this morning when I lay awake next to my snoring husband? Probably because they've never experienced anything in their own lives, no deaths to a loved one, no divorces, no illnesses, nothing that is so called 'having a live' and so they project that onto a celebrity and think he has to live a certain way, or the way that is in their twisted little brains anyway.
That snoring husband by the way, my second husband, I met him only a month when after being divorced. Love doesn't wait really. What did I have to say? No wait I'm not ready for you? We went ahead took the plunge and went to live together after six months. That will be eight years this year.

Guess what? Life isn't that Disney film where the princess rebels, sings it out of her system, gets hitched and marries at age 16!!
But if it were you wouldn't be all that judgemental. Why is it okay in a Disney film for a girl to get married to a (stranger) prince so quickly but when it happens to your favourite celeb you cry and yell it's wrong!
It's real life! First of all you don't know how long they know each other and you're not supposed to, second it's none of your business!
If you think your celeb crush had such poor judgement on the love of his life and how he wants to spend the rest of his life, why on earth do you want to stay a fan of the man? Why spread vile, viscious hate all over the 'interweb' as Ben would say.
Do you honestly think putting him, his wife, their unborn child and his choices down all the time would make him change his mind and make him run toward you?
Quite the opposite direction I would think!

I have one advice for each and everyone of you: Re-read your Fairytales again! No prince charming ever married the Wicked Witch!

© KH

Cumberfans and the Media

Benedict Cumberbatch and Sophie Hunter at the French Open earlier this year and the Times announcement

On November 5th Benedict Cumberbatch announced in the Times that he's getting engaged to Sophie Hunter. Almost immediately Twitter and Tumblr bursted with happy Cumberfans who congratulated the happy couple. Hashtag #congratulationsBenedictandSophie was the thing to tweet and Benedict Cumberbatch and Sophie Hunter were trending topic. Everyone who was doing their research would know that most of the Fandom was rejoicing and who wouldn't be? If you're not happy for your idol's joy and happiness are you a real fan? Every Cumberfan knows Benedict wants to have a family of his own. So yes we all shared our exitement.

But the days following the announcement the newspapers and tabloids were throwing article after article at us without even verifying sources or 'doing their research' as Sherlock would say. They only had to read on Twitter or Tumblr (which is what they are doing anyway) to see how the CumberCollective was feeling about the news. But no, nothing of the sort. Almost every article said 'we' are crying our eyes out or that our dreams are shattered. (yes we all still thought we could 'get' him *rolls eyes* ) There are articles written by women who are calling us Cumberbitches (we all hate the word; Benedict hates the word we don't like to be called that) and even calling Sophie one! As if she's some überCumberbitch who has caught herself the jackpot.

I find it all very offensive to say the least! I am appalled how the media are talking about us Cumberbatch fans (whatever names we give ourselves)as if we are mindless crying stupid nobodies (Bitches even) We are all very happy Benedict and Sophie are engaged to be married and we want them to be happy! Let us be happy for our man! We are one happy Cumberfamily! If you don't understand that, it's your problem don't make it ours!
The media didn't even bother to read our reaction to it all;

Of course it's much more tempting to write a story about crying teens (not all of us are you know, a lot of us are married women with a healthy Cumbercrush) writing about happy Cumberfans is probally not a good story. But writing all lies is? It's lazy journalism in my eyes and I can get really angry if they attack Benedict and now Sophie and the Cumbercollective. It's not a bunch of rabid fanatic fans as some are so fast to label us. No we are a wonderful supportive Fandom (most of us are in it for Benedict's work mind you his amazing acting skills, let's not forget that) who are embracing Sophie and welcoming her into the Cumberfamily.
Sure she must realize she has to share Benedict a bit but I'm sure she doesn't mind that.

So we would love it if you would stop calling us 'bitches' we're not dogs and if you would do your research from now on dear Media.
Furthermore if you say harmful thing about either Benedict or Sophie be prepared for a really angry Cumbercollective that will protect both of them with everything they've got!
You are warned!

© KH